Is your child en route to burn out?

Burn out can be the result of many different reasons and sometimes a combination of reasons.  Also, the signs of burn out can be so varied.  If this becomes a long term issue then a diagnosis of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome / Myalgic Encephalomyelitis (also known as CFS/ME) may result.

Through my therapy work I often spot the signs of the onset of burn out or behaviour that may need to burn-out.  How can it be that children who may not have even reached puberty are suffering from such issues?  Is this a society problem, a lifestyle problem, a personality problem or the result of something else?

In truth it can be all and any of the above.  Very often burn out occurs following a long period of some type of stress, illness or it can happen as a result of a traumatic incident.  When problems do not get addressed, the mind and body store them up and the heavy burden of these becomes too much to bear.  This results in overload and burn out.  The reality is this can take months, even years, to overcome.  Therefore it is advisable to address issues as they arise.

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Some type of situations / reasons which commonly lead to burn out are:

– Heavy workload at school / university

 

– Placing extreme pressure on themselves to succeed

 

– The lead up to exams is an incredibly pressurised time for many children

 

– Abuse of any nature – bullying, emotional, mental or physical

 

– Social media – can create anxiety or cause comparison to others creating low self-esteem

 

– Dysfunctional family situation

 

– Too many activities – resulting in limited down-time to rest and recover

 

– Prolonged anxiety or stress

 

– Grief

 

– Guilt if they have downtime

 

– Keeping up with peers

 

– Following illness, especially viral illness / glandular fever

 

– Lots of internal thoughts (worries/negativity) but not feeling they have someone to share those with

Often there is a personality type of people who burn out.  They may find it very difficult to stop and relax.  They have to constantly do well and keep active in some way.  Not necessarily physically active.  This may be to study extremely hard or to take part in lots of hobbies.  They might feel guilty if they stop.

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Signs of burn out can be varied but can include the following:

– Become withdrawn, eg from friendship groups

 

– Struggle to concentrate

 

– Anxious

 

– Depressed

 

– Struggle to sleep or sleep lots

 

– Lack motivation

 

– Talk of being tired all of the time

 

– Weight gain or weight loss

 

– Muscle or joint pain

 

– Struggle to recover from injury

 

– Increased heart rate or palpitations

 

– Poor memory

 

– Sore throat

 

– Headache

 

– Gastrointestinal issues

 

– Feeling of muscle weakness

 

– Poor quality sleep

 

– Struggle to control emotions, including anger

 

– Wake up feeling tired

Life has become so much more complex for today’s youngsters.  Social media and constant 24/7 news has contributed largely to this but this is our way of life now.  Therefore it becomes important to explore ways of keeping life in balance.  Youngsters often compare themselves to their peers and feel they are not good enough.  Constantly telling themselves they aren’t good enough adds another layer of stress.

How to address burn out

Every situation is unique.  First and foremost, notice any change in your child.  Keep communication lines open with them or if you know they will talk to someone else then express any concerns to that person to see if they have noticed anything.  Ensure they have a good bedtime routine ideally going to bed at the same time each night with occasional exceptions.  Downtime is vital as is a healthy diet.

One area which can often be missing from children’s and teenager’s life nowadays is fun.  Life has become so serious that there appears no time to have fun in life.  Laughter boosts the immune system and therefore is important for good health.

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Some time outside is another key aspect to good health.  It is important that parents lead by example.  Children learn from following our lead especially at a young age.

Importantly, addressing any issues such as lack of self-esteem, lack of confidence, anxiety or depression can significantly help.  Also, addressing problems at an early stage can stop the onset of burn out and fatigue.

If you have any questions or  would like to know how I can help you or your child please get in touch with me by clicking here.

About Ann

ANN BOWDITCH is a member and trainer registered on the General Hypnotherapy Register and General Hypnotherapy Standards Council and has run her own private practice in Guernsey for over 8 years.

Author of The Energy of Anxiety, a self-help book offering new perspectives and modern techniques.

Ann is also a practitioner of a number of therapies including EFT, Energy in Motion, META Health, NES Health, Matrix Reimprinting, Colour Mirrors. She is also a RMTi Consultant – the only one in the Channel Islands.  Ann uses her skills to help people overcome many issues including depression, health, stress, weight loss, performance, cravings, addictions, anxiety, insomnia, bullying and confidence issues.  She works in a unique way often by combining therapies tailoring sessions specifically for the individual.

“The Energy of Anxiety”

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If you wish to find out how Ann can help you please contact her here.

Ann Bowditch GQHP, GHR Reg., META-P
Dip (Hyp) Hypnotherapy
EFT (AAMET Certified) & Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner
Meta-Health & Colour Mirrors Practitioner
RMTi Consultant, NES Health Practitioner
Mindfulness Based Inner Repatterning Practitioner
PSTEC Level 1-A (Advanced PSTEC)

Tel: 07781 111186

www.hypnotherapy.gg
www.energyofanxiety.com

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Ann Bowditch is a Member & Trainer registered on the General Hypnotherapy Register